Unrequited love

Hmm.

Unrequited love.

Unrequited love, there you go.

And so the song is really, like, an affirming song and in a way it's kinda like a meditation to myself of, like, breathe and let it go, you know? And I kept repeating that towards, like, the very end of the song of, "Breathe and let it go."

Mm-hmm.

[clapping] Beautiful, beautiful.

Man, I, I'm sensing a lot of pain in that song 'cause I know that feeling.

Like, I think we all know that feeling of, like, unrequited love and having feelings for someone that didn't love us.

Mm-hmm.

It's for maybe a stage, maybe in the honeymoon stage, maybe for a day, maybe for a conversation where we have that experience of perfect understanding, but it's our unrequited love episode.

It's the failure of human expression and communication.

And there's something about solitude that I think maybe our culture in particular here in the United States runs away from.

Yeah.

And then the guy who he does this to literally does it in front of him in this kind of like act of love, but, like, unrequited love that's very public, and calls for divine retribution.

And then Narcissus, or Narcissus, has the...

Like, he gets his sort of just desserts by being like, "Oh, I'm...

What's the scene of dying?

She withers away in the woods, like turns to ash and bone, and then her bones turn to stone.

She's, she also wastes away in yearning and solitary death of unrequited love.

Yeah, and but she turns to stone, whereas his, you know, his substance is, is water.

Bottom feeder.

Or unrequited love.

So bug spray.

Bottom Feeder, Unrequited Love.

One of those three.

So I'll let you do your own research and guess and look at my Spotify profile for hints.

favorite in this book

i feel like his story is the one that i think has a bit more depth to it i think ryan's problem is pretty like typical of a romance book like it's not uncommon to see um you know a character trying to pine after someone and not being able to have them that unrequited love thing it's a story you see quite frequently but the idea of like a much older man entering a new point of his life is sort of like for him it's his retirement years and meeting this very young but incredibly well educated and cultured guy who challenges his perception of you know what he wants a relationship to look like and what it could look like And not to mention the fact that he's closeted during all of this as well.

So not only does Eric have to deal with the anxiety of, you know, coming out, but he would be coming out into a relationship that has a significant age gap of, what, close to 20 years? Like, that's not small.

That's significant.

And that kind of speaks true for me, for these two as well.

I agree with you on that, definitely.

yeah they are I think the entire like vibes that I get from the book because obviously you've got the unrequited love between Kyle and Kyle with Kip as well I think the the entire sort of vibes of the book give that like give a romance that just is a little more a little more realistic like you said where it's like it's who they need now at this point in their life and that you don't always end up with the person that you think you're going to end up with um So it's kind of, it would be fitting if they don't, if they're no longer together in the future and in the future and Rachel's worlds, you know?

Yeah.

Yeah, you loved that bit, remember? I love all those things.

Yeah, I love Unrequited.

It's my favourite, apart from actual love, which is obviously ideal.

So she came back.

And while I 100 percent agree with you, Jeff, and I I think that this is like I actually feel sorry for Ivanova for having a life that has led her to this conclusion that like you, I so vehemently disagree with.

When an individual has only ever experienced unrequited love to where they believe that that is the only type of love that actually truly exists, as I believe Ivanova does here, I feel very sad for her.

And if I was Stephen Franklin right now, what I would want to tell her is.

not all love is unrequited you know yeah especially if this is my friend i'd be like i requite your love yeah i love you yeah and you know i mean it's amazing

Okay.

Someone asked, why did linear tell Dylan what Ivanova had said? And he says, because linear is quite familiar with the concept.

He also feels basically love is unrequited also because hope burns eternal, which is probably the most damnable part of unrequited love.

I still hope you're going to love me, even though you don't just take the message, dude,

Here she comes.

Hello and welcome to Crushed by Margaret Caborn-Smith, a podcast about the drama and karma of unrequited love.

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