The Happiness Hypothesis

And all of a sudden her sex drive goes through the roof and they're very happy.

So, I remember reading in Jonathan Haidt's The Happiness Hypothesis about the passionate and companionate, two styles of, it's not quite attachment, I think it's attraction perhaps.

Is there an equivalent for men? Hmm.

for these emotional, intimate bonding like this?

yeah.

There's an amazing bit in a book by Jonathan Haidt called The Happiness Hypothesis.

I'm not going to be able to do it justice now, but he does this great bit where he says, imagine there's a medication, 100% natural ingredients, no side effects.

It makes your stress go down.

I often get asked this, and...

I'm always wary of like long-term goals because I think that often like I read this book when I was a bit younger called The Happiness Hypothesis by this like social psychologist called Jonathan Haidt.

And he said that happiness is based on the gap between your expectations and your reality.

And I was like, hmm, yeah, that I've experienced that before where you set this lofty goal and you're just sort of not very happy until you've met it.

See, finding yourself, in our day, it's all about your identity, and you go out and meditate, and go on vacation, and that's where you find yourself.

To be honest, every psychology, read Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis, all of it.

Every secular psychology says other than your genes, the best way to be happy is by blessing other people.

And we think it's not.

And how much deeper it is than the book that just does the more science-y psychology stuff.

So Jonathan Haidt wrote a book called The Happiness Hypothesis, which is like a mixture of those two types.

But he doesn't have the biblical Christian hedonist stuff, obviously, not a believer.

But he does have a lot of stuff on... philosophy and a lot of stuff on more kind of practical life and that kind of book has got a lot more depth to it's a lot more substantial and it's often a lot more long-term than the books which say you know this is these are some of the things you can do in daily life this is how how you'll maximize your happiness today or tomorrow whatever i think there's often it's about length it's about there's a there's a longer view being played in those philosophical game philosophical books because what they're doing is saying these are habits you need to form now the payoff of which may not emerge for decades.

He was a professor at Oxford.

And he wrote a book called The Happiness Hypothesis, which has got this parable of the elephant and the rider, which talks about this idea that people's hearts basically are their elephant, the heart that drives everything, drives emotions and everything else.

And their head is the rider.

And the rider is there basically to try to do what the heart wants it to do.

So there's like a total conflict going on all the time between your heart and your head.

And it relates to the elephant and the rider really well.

The reason I came across this book, The Happiness Hypothesis, is not because I went out and researched it.

It was because I was sitting and watching GB News at 11 o'clock one night when the comedians were on.