Stuart Smalley

We're going on our 11th year.

And this would be – are we going to finally come around and say, hey, we're good enough? Stuart Smalley this thing instead of always writing in a little addendum or a little asterisk and say, oh, well, all this other stuff.

Are we now saying we're the favorites, we should go win the world championship? Because we never have done that on this show.

I've said it.

That is, until the Brewers can get to a World Series again for the first time in 44 years.

I understand why Jesse's reluctant to say it.

But yes, the Stuart Smalley reference, which for you younger folks that don't remember that era of Saturday Night Live, that was the self-affirmations from Stuart Smalley, I'm good enough and gosh darn it, people like me.

You're right.

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Oh, uh, Stuart Smalley or You Are Good Enough.

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You Are Good Enough.

Yeah.

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Not Stuart Smalley.

Oh, I'll figure it out.

It is a world that really interests me, both the research behind it as well as the application of it.

And one of my favorite kind of cultural ways we've seen that implemented is with Stuart Smalley from SNL and how he would sit in front of a mirror and say all these positive affirmations to himself, ending with, "And doggone it, people like me." While we all know the importance of believing in ourselves and talking to ourselves kindly, there is something you may not know.

Science actually shows that if you don't already have a strong sense of self-worth, in other words, self-esteem, positive thinking or self-talk and affirmations can actually backfire and hurt you more.

This research really puzzled my friend Dr. Marisa G. Franco, and this confusion led to many years of study and even writing.

Wow.

And so I realized to feel healthy in connection, we also need to go inward.

It's reminding me of the SNL clip that went on forever, Stuart Smalley.

You know, like looking in the mirror and saying all these self-affirmations, like, and at the end like, "And doggone it, people like me." But your point here and with that theory is if we don't actually feel it ourselves or believe it about ourselves, we won't, we won't experience that.

You know, that's why affirmations don't work.

You know, with a Stuart Smalley, the thing from Saturday Night Live that, you know, he's looking in the mirror going, I am smart enough.

I am strong enough.

I am this.