Social conditioning

So I, I just wanna...

The reason I w- and who I want you to speak to with this is actually the partners, because they hear social conditioning as a cop-out.

To me as tribal creatures, social conditioning to me has the power to bypass your marriage, bypass your kids, bypass your faith.

I mean, I see people who want things purely because of what it will do to them socially, and that they throw all their morals and values out the window.

It's a, to me, it's a very real threat.

And we spend a ton of time talking about that, because I believe impressing the tribe and feeling like the man is a massive motivator for them.

But I do hear from so many people that it's a cop-out, that that's actually not what's going on.

Can you explain the social conditioning aspect to a partner to the way that they can feel like that is actually, like, a legitimate thing that needs to be discussed as a part of recovery?

And actually, I think that a lot of people should be cognizant of the fact that potentially they haven't thrown off those shackles.

Potentially they haven't gone through those barriers that they need to go through of cre- questioning themselves and questioning everything to do with their previous life, with their, uh, conditioning, with the social conditioning of, of the state, the establishment, everything that, that forms, you know, quote-unquote, "the beast system that we live in." And I think that we, we as a community will make a whole lot more headway by throwing less shit at the wall and just being more kind of precise with the messaging that we're giving out, rather than constantly trying to kind of feed into that thing and just constantly pushing stuff out and being more kind of precise in the truisms that we have.

So what...

Give me an example.

beyond and i'm i'm capable of for now been able to really really express and i had that and i know from and doing a social conditioning of with my parents they couldn't quite keep up with me i was sharing a story earlier like we went to the lake for the first time like four years old and all i heard about going to the lake we there yet we there yet we there yet we there yet we there yet you know and then my father be wailing his hand in the back and you know whatever you know but When we finally got there, the doors opened.

He's taking out the grill, he's doing all these kinds of things.

And off I was, right off the pier and into the water.

and I'm at the threshold on so many different topics in my life.

There are a lot of reasons that a lot of people squelch their enthusiasm for life.

Sometimes you blame it on your past conditioning, your social conditioning.

We think that's an accurate awareness.

Sometimes you blame it on the person who is not pleasing you in the moment, something that you have no control over.