Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a 12-step, 12-tradition-based fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous. Membership is available to anyone seeking to overcome destructive patterns of sex and love addiction.www.slaafws.org
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Sep 2, 2026
Hunter BidenGUEST
Yeah.
Adam FriedlandHOST
Do you think Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is, is like a, is a good idea?
Hunter BidenGUEST
Yeah.
Adam FriedlandHOST
Getting all them horn dogs in one room?
Jodi WhiteGUEST
I understand that.
Jodi WhiteGUEST
And also love addiction is, it's hard to find really clear numbers on research as far as how many women are in recovery versus men, because that research often would be pulled from 12-step meetings, right? Or at the Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and that's all anonymous.
Jodi WhiteGUEST
So it's very hard to get a clear read, but I can tell you, I've had a podcast, Journals of a Love Addict, for the last six years, and I've heard from 99% of who I hear from is women.
AnnHOST
Yes.
Shannon TorrenceHOST
Unprofessional theory, but I feel strongly about this theory, is that all addictions stem from love addiction, meaning the lack of self-love, the lack of connection to a higher power, whether that be God, nature, whatever.
Shannon TorrenceHOST
I have seen so many addicts come into Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Shannon TorrenceHOST
At first, I thought it was just about alcohol.
Shannon TorrenceHOST
At first, I thought it was just gambling.
PatriciaGUEST
And I think at that time, I had kind of pulled away from AA as well.
PatriciaGUEST
I also have done work in Al-Anon and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
PatriciaGUEST
My sobriety journey in AA was I, you know, was sober a year and a half.
PatriciaGUEST
I met a man.
Vic MensaGUEST
Really, it was 12-step program also that gave me the perspective to break free from it.
Vic MensaGUEST
The 12-step program I was in was called SLAA, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Vic MensaGUEST
So it was-
Deante’ KyleHOST
I done seen se- a-
Dave ManheimHOST
It helps me clear my thoughts as I am a verbal processor and low-key obsessed with my own recovery autobiography.
Dave ManheimHOST
I don't have Facebook currently, but if I did, it would say, 'In a long-distance relationship with The Dopey Podcast.' My sponsor and I got to put on a SLAA for the Dopey Marathon, and that was cool.
Dave ManheimHOST
My update is I did get a little hypomanic three days after starting the generic form on the med I've been on for 20 years, Abilify, if anyone is familiar.
Dave ManheimHOST
So we upped the dose to the max.
Dave ManheimHOST
It's coming together.
Dave ManheimHOST
Honestly, I've been thinking of my qualifier lately.
Dave ManheimHOST
Although I got my six months sober in SLAA [cheering] two weeks ago," congratulations, "I'm hopeful that as I write my production, I will find resolution.
Dave ManheimHOST
I'm not there yet.
James AnnearGUEST
Sharon and I started this journey, uh, two thousand and ten.
James AnnearGUEST
August twenty-sixth will be our discovery anniversary, and August twenty-eighth was my first day in SLAA.
James AnnearGUEST
Back then, the only help was sort of an old school way of calling the betrayed partners co-addicts, which was not helpful at all because it ignored their trauma.
James AnnearGUEST
So she and I went through an awful lot trying to find our own way through this, including at any-- at, at one time, six different therapists doing different things for us or helping us with six different things.
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James AnnearGUEST
I bought some new T-shirts.
James AnnearGUEST
I used to be a bodybuilder, and you tell a bodybuilder, or you give a bodybuilder a shirt, if it's too large, he'll thank you, and if it's too small, he'll wear it.
James AnnearGUEST
So [chuckles] so I wore really small T-shirts, right? And Scott was like, "What are you doing?" And I'm like, "What do you mean?" And he said, he said, "Well, you're wearing a tight T-shirt to an SLAA meeting, right? You're, you don't know how many people that's triggering." And I'm like, "You're kidding me, right?" 'Cause I had no self-esteem.
James AnnearGUEST
He said, "You can't do that.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
I just want them to want me.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
Or have you said, why do I care so much if they're dating someone else? Why am I checking their social media? Why does one text from them completely change my mood? Why do I need them to admit what they did? Why can't I let go when I know this relationship isn't good for me? If you have ever found yourself doing or saying those things, I want to introduce you to a concept you may have heard of discussed in SLAW, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
Okay, I'm in this program 17 years.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
I've been to these meetings and I kept hearing LAVA, LAVA, LAVA, love, attention, validation, acceptance.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
And this is where lava and the fantasy loop become deeply connected.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
So what is LAVA first? First, let's talk about where this came from.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
If you are familiar with LAVA or been to a Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meeting, you've probably heard people talk about it like I did.
Breanne Davis-GanttHOST
This desperate need for things like love, attention, validation, and acceptance.
BrianHOST
And that's exhausting, right? So when you finally have the drug, then you're relieved.
BrianHOST
Now, I'm not saying that there's not, like, I mean, I went through, I spent 17 years in Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Al-Anon, SCA, SA, SLAA, went to a couple of CMA meetings, definitely a lot of NA meetings.
BrianHOST
I was a 12-step junkie.
BrianHOST
And that's not a problem either, right? What's wrong with that? It, you know, it scratched a lot of itches.
Laura CleryHOST
I was actually going with a friend who was really struggling in that area.
Laura CleryHOST
For those of you who don't know what that is, it's Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous.
Laura CleryHOST
And I wouldn't say I'm a sex addict.
Laura CleryHOST
I think I have actually pretty good discipline around that.
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