So go with the top one and then go.

All right, here's the one that's going to make your audience go, what? Okay, here we go.

It's the second habit in the book.

It's called the habit of dethroning.

So in the Gospels, Matthew 6 and Luke 16, Jesus says you can't serve two masters.

You'll be loyal to one.

You will despise the other.

Okay.

He goes, I can't give a lot right now because he's not making a lot of money, right? That's what pastors need to learn.

By the way, we need to get a bigger view of discipleship.

And discipleship is just a Jesus word for training.

We gotta get a better version of this for families, because everyone thinks that, oh, all I gotta do is pray with my kids for meals, take them to church, and then we're good.

It's like, no, actually, Discipleship is everything.

It is your relationships.

It's the C4.

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First of all, we joked about it at the beginning, but can we start just on the simple thing of why do you hate allowance?

Allowance.

Okay, so a sum total of zero of the top 100 families we ever found.

So we've served 10 million families in all of our companies, okay? We started the whole fund run school fundraising.

We have the largest school fundraiser in America called Apex.

We did children's business fairs.

We got 5,000 a year now.

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But, you know, I think is there also a way through those core values if, for example, one of them is generosity, right? Where are there things we can do with our kids to teach them about money or generosity through, you know, kind of a core value as an example? Is there an example of that?

Yeah, well, I'll hit that in a second with the last C, which is capability.

Okay, got it.

But the core values become the decision framework for the home, okay? So like, I'll give you an example.

Most families ask me about, hey, are we doing discipline right or wrong? Like, how are we disciplining? Do we spank? Do we not spank? Should I use Tabasco sauce? Like, do timeouts really work? I feel like if I send my son to his room for a timeout, he just plays Legos and reads books.

He likes it, right? Yeah.

Well, the question I have back to them is, yeah, we can go through all the cycles of what makes for great discipline because you always want to keep their heart.

Yep.

Hmm.

That's how you get to number three, 'cause on our deathbed, we're not gonna sit there checking our bank account.

We're not gonna wish we made a little more money.

We're gonna wanna have one more meal with our family.

We're gonna go one more walk on, down the street or down the beach with a spouse.

We're gonna wanna spend a little bit more time with the people we love.

That's all that matters at the end of our lives, and on my deathbed, I want to have thought, "Okay, my kids blew by me in their faith and values, in the mindsets and skillsets, in their relationships." Their, their marriage was stronger than mine and Amy's, right? Their relationship with their kids was stronger than my relationship with my kids and, and yes, they're more financially competent and they, they're, they're more skilled in their impact.

What do you mean by that? What do you mean by work for?