He just gets hotter.

The cool thing is that it worked professionally and personally.

And so people started saying, hey, Sandy, what's going on over there? What are you doing? And so I wrote it down.

That became Emotional Magnetism book.

And now people, you know, readers all over the world are telling me it's saving their marriages.

It's making them better business people.

So in essence, these four emotional magnets are what are driving our decisions.

What, what's one communication tool you'd recommend for people that could, they could start using today to improve a difficult conversation?

What inspired you to start writing about that, and why specifically Emotional Magnetism?

Yeah, I played with the name for quite a while, actually, but it was, uh, it was a journey.

You know, I wrote the book from having a spectacular failure in my life and coming out the other side.

You know, at about 15 years ago, I was really struggling.

I was looking professional and successful from the outside in my, in my role and my job, but I was failing at some of the most important conversations in my life, in my personal relationships.

I had a failed marriage.

I was burnt out, hadn't spoken to my friends in weeks.

On-

Can you tell me what that is?

Yeah, happy to.

So this is what I'm writing in my next book, and people started asking me, "Sandy, how do you, 12 years in, still have a relationship where you're constantly in each other's orbit?" Like we just...

You can see it.

People can see it with us.

We're fascinated with each other and just holding the space and love for each other.

And so people want that.

Well, and I could interpret that, that he's upset with me or something, which isn't true at all.

Can you explain what they are and why they are so powerful?

Yes, they have changed my life.

And as a result, thousands of people's lives all over the world help them to improve their relationships, save their marriages, even grow their businesses.

So simply put, emotional magnets are the emotional needs we have to be happy.

It's essentially what's driving our communication.

Think of it like a four-lane highway.

Each of us is driving in one of those lanes.

So now, if someone wants to become a better communicator starting today, what simple habits can they begin practicing immediately?

Mm-hmm

... we have with people at work always comes down to these four magnets and why they're making the choices.

Like I'll give you an example.

My husband came home and we ordered dinner late one night, and he's like, "Just, you know, order something on the app." So I pull up the app and I'm going through it and I'm looking and I'm thinking, "Okay, his emotional magnet is safety.

He orders the same thing every time," right? Like always gets the same thing.

So I'm looking for one he has in his comfort zone, and I see Chipotle.

And I go, "Okay.

Mm-hmm.