Role model

Do you think there's a crisis of femininity at the moment? Do you think that women are struggling for good role models right now?

I do think so.

And you know, I know from my personal experience, I don't have a role model online.

I don't have a role model.

And if I do have any kind of role models, it will just be like some of the men in the field that have done really great work in psychology.

But I can't tell you there's a single woman that I've ever watched growing up and thought, I want to be like her.

And that's not because there's anything wrong with the women out there.

So to see those people who have this complain that they're oppressed, it's laughable because I'm from a different world when I go back to Kashmir.

I do not have it in my profile.

But the line six is traditionally called the role model.

So, but this isn't someone who becomes a role model by trying to look perfect or having all the answers or telling everyone else how to live.

The wisdom of the line six is earned.

So it comes through living through experience, making mistakes, stepping back to see the bigger picture and eventually returning to the world as an authentic example of what they have learned.

They've lived, they've observed, they've healed, and they've integrated.

And now their life itself becomes the teaching.

So they are now the role model.

So very quickly I want you to think about someone who, uh, plays that role in your career, who asks the questions that help you see things more clearly, and rate how strong that relationship is right now in your own career squad.

The next persona is the role model.

I call it your North Star.

This one is very different than the others.

In fact, the role model sometimes doesn't even know that you exist.

Think about when I think about my role models, and I talk about some of them here in the book, are people I've never met in person, people that don't even know that I exist, but they, they have become role models through their books, through, uh, podcasts.

People that I admire at far, right? That maybe worked in the same organization, but we not necessarily had a established relationship.

The role model models something about who you can become.

And there were a number of things.

There was, you know, not enough role models, lack of mentoring, unconscious bias.

But the inability to work flexibly was really key, and that people just weren't working flexibly very much in law firms or anywhere else until 2020 and we, we hit the pandemic.

So actually, I, I did have somebody, quite senior, a senior associate in my team, who I must have recruited her 20 years ago now, I guess, who came to me from another law firm where she'd taken some time out.

What should the men be doing when all this is, is, is, is going on? What's their, what, what's their contribution?

Well, increasingly there seems to be, um, a colleague called Richard Collier who looks at, at men and masculinity in the legal profession, and there seems to be some rebellion going on amongst some younger men who do really want to have a life, who do really want to enjoy their children and their relationship and so on, who are challenging this.

And I think we, just as Alison says, you need, you need to have mentoring from above or role models from above.

We need to have men who are going along with this, 'cause men have the power, goodness knows.

Und dieser Kreis, der ist das, was mich am glücklichsten macht, ja.

Wenn man sieht, ähm, es ist nicht nur, es wird nicht nur jemand weitergebildet und der profitiert von dem System, das wir haben, sondern die kommen auch zurück und geben zurück und sind dann auch noch Role Models für unsere Teilnehmenden, dann geht uns richtig das Herz auf.

Und das ist eigentlich das, was am schönsten ist.

Wunderschöne Story.

They are doing what? They are processing the data.

Role modeling is a very effective way to parent.

I think we all agree.

It's very important.

I'm Rania Francoeur.

In today's session, the topic of the hour is CEO or senior leaders role modeling, and specifically in terms of how they show up at their leadership retreat or their corporate offsite and looking at the impact of their choices, whether they're conscious of them or not on the team, on the retreat itself, and then on that post retreat coming out of the retreat.

so the format of these sessions is usually we start off with some opening ideas from randall craig ceo of the brain trust and then we flip into questions from you from me and as usual randall has no idea what topics are going to come his way and we don't know what he's going to say either that's part of the fun so i'll share a little bit about randall for those who don't get no randall he's founded several successful startups he's held a long time position at a big four consulting firm he's a senior he was a senior executive at an american public company the author of eight books in the speaker hall of fame a master facilitator He's helped over 100 organizations scale, and he works with me at the Brain Trust Professional Institute, helping organizations grow through leadership retreats, executive coaching, board development, and helping facilitate conversations.

So Randall, where do you want to start?

Great start, Randall.

I have my questions as usual that I've brainstormed.

For me, this idea of talking about role modeling and then seeking our own role models is a bit, there's a little bit of irony here because we're talking about in a specific situation, which usually happens behind closed doors.

the leadership retreat's happening behind closed doors.