Reality testing

But that implies that maybe he didn't actually reject you and abandon you.

Do you think we could talk about that a bit more? It's a little reality testing.

Yeah, so it's reality testing.

It's helping them now be a little curious.

Yeah, is there like a discrepancy here between the way that I feel and what actually happened? Because in fact, oftentimes what I hear, like this, again, prototypical example is, well, what I meant was, I know last week I was just telling you that he planned my birthday party for me and that was really sweet of him.

See, but I don't remind her of that.

You know, again, it's important that she comes up because that she comes to this herself.

So, yes, Megan, it's reality testing and it's also then helping her herself develop a capacity to create a little space and get into a more reflective state.

Well, yeah, so now you bring up the other part of their...

In psychology, we call it reality testing.

And reality testing is when a child develops their sense of what's real and what's not real, right? Because children, at a certain point, you know how...

I forgot how old your child is, but, you know, when kids of a certain age, when they're three or four years old, they think if they close their eyes, the world disappears, because for them, they don't see anything anymore.

So if you think reality is a little bit...