Rational emotive behavior therapy

So he said it's the ABCs of essentially cognitive behavioral therapy or rational behavioral therapy.

Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy.

And so what that is, is it's a therapy that you can do on yourself.

And so I'm going to walk you through a piece of it because honestly, this is the key that can unlock how you can change your own beliefs and you don't need to rely on someone else to do it for you.

If it doesn't phenomenologically change your life, then what's the point of the exercise? So we typically work with clinicians now, psychiatrists, licensed professional counselors, EMDR therapists, uh, cognitive- Mm ...

behavioral therapists, REBT, all of them, as an a- as an adjunctive to, uh, psychotherapy.

So psychotherapy is really about meaning making.

You've got this autobiography.

Not only can we hopefully come from non-judgment, but quit believing our thoughts.

There's a term coined by Albert Ellis in Rational Emotive Therapy that is called stinking thinking.

And so many of us listen to our stinking thinking, which to me are thoughts that we think that don't serve our highest good, which for most people are all their thoughts all day long.

When God and spirit and angels talk to you, you have to be silent to receive it and hear it.

Y'all, thoughts, behaviors, and feelings.

I believe we have this on what is called the REBT triangle as a graphic in our Patreon.

If you didn't know, for many of our episodes, we have accompanying graphics that are only in our Patreon.

And this triangle of thoughts, behaviors, and feelings in any given moment compromises all relationships.

I'm also under the impression that the...

Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, which is a topic that I've covered quite a bit in my career as an interviewer.

I interviewed the founder of that discipline, Albert Ellis, a number of times and more recently his widow, Debbie Jaffe Ellis.

His philosophy was very strongly influenced by Korzybski.

There's a lot of different therapies out there, like EMDR therapy has helped me.

REBT therapy is amazing.

So there's these specialty therapies that I think are really helpful.

Um, and then I'm just a huge proponent, like move your body, if that's yoga, if that's the gym, if that's going for a walk.

Yeah.

If you're doing therapy and stuff like that, the, the, straight up from ther- it's CBT, REBT, motivational interviewing, you know?

Mm-hmm.

This is the foundations-

So much comes up for me when you say that.

REBT is a cognitive behavioral therapy that I really resonate with, and it's all grounded in your beliefs.

And in this case, many times our distress or our suffering is due to irrational beliefs.

Because our beliefs inform our thoughts, which inform our feelings, which inform our actions.

Mm-hmm

... yourself, your beliefs.

Well, you brought up beliefs again, which goes back to that REBT that I spoke to earlier.

As you're talking, I'm thinking about when I say that's never enough, it's...

He, he's often referred to, he's a very famous psychologist.

He- he's often referred to as sort of the grandfather of cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, um, because he created something called rational emotive therap- therapy, or RET, sometimes called REBT, which is It, it's kinda more or less the basis of modern cognitive behavioral therapy, okay? And Ellis believed that we experience emotional distress, we experience upset because of these shoulds, because of the demands that get made.

You know, the ought to, the must.

And what I do like about what he said about it, he said you shouldn't ignore or, uh, throw away your shoulds, you know, the shoulds in your life.