Psychological abuse

Today, Dave and I are unpacking my recent conversation with Evan Rachel Wood, and there is so much from this interview that deserves a deeper conversation.

Evan shared her experience of grooming, coercive control, and psychological abuse during her relationship with Marilyn Manson.

And one of the things that struck us most was just how calculated abuse can be.

Narcissistic abuse is not simply someone behaving badly in the moment.

I've heard that before.

And psychological abuse by staff.

And then you guys were forced to fight each other to earn food, which is, I've heard that from almost every single girl.

If you want to eat, you fight.

I'm your host, Elizabeth, a trauma healer, author, founder of the Inner Healing Century.

This show has been recognised by Feedspot as one of the top emotional abuse podcasts worldwide and number three in the UK domestic violence category.

It's also featured in a million podcasts among the best on narcissistic abuse, coercive control and complex trauma.

Here we go deeper, clearing emotional and ancestral wounds, breaking cycles of shame, abandonment and betrayal.

of the documentary there are trigger warnings at the beginning of each episode so you are aware what they're talking about i don't want to re-traumatize anyone i found it absolutely fascinating i actually followed what he was talking about what sam because they're using interview clips what he was talking about in a way that i literally step by step went through the relationship that i was in One of the biggest things, you know, that I recognise, I have spoken about some of the stuff that I heard.

Well, most of it I've spoken about.

From my viewpoint, when I wrote the book, The A to Z of Emotional Abuse, the information that I was imparting was like, this is what was happening in my body.

This is how I felt, sort of thing.

I just have a great problem when religion is either used as a tactic to justify war on a global scale or on a personal scale.

And there are too many people who justify the emotional violence they are enacting on other people through their religious beliefs.

Stop it.

No. Really?

They said, that woman does not have the emotional support in her life to open to the level you want her to right now because all the people that she's living with all the people she's surrounded by they are a certain vibration and she does not want to disrupt her whole life so dramatically by going to another place and i don't know about you i think of myself and i think of the stages of growth i've gone through and some areas have been really slow for me some of my wounds have taken a long time and some of them i've shot through but there is a timing for things and so The people who lash out when their beliefs are challenged, because there's no need to.

You can just go, oh, different belief.

Unless you are actually on some level... scared that your belief is wrong but you don't want to look at it because your body starts to emotionally respond to you telling me that the sky is blue and I'm like no it's not the sky is red Alex and I want to come back at you which is not going to do me any good but what I'm doing is I'm going oh I'm feeling all this emotional energy I'm just going to throw it at you And that's emotional violence.

It's an incapacity to hold yourself emotionally.

And so I want to make sure that everyone knows who you are because so many women experience this.

and hide in the silence of emotional abuse, emotional violence, social pressure, exploitation, and the struggle to be recognized and the courage that it takes to reclaim that dignity and hope.

And today my guest is Xiomara Henriquez, a Honduran born author, poet, entrepreneur, and former educator.

And through her book, Venus and Trump, she brings attention to a story of a young woman whose experience inspired her to examine and dig deep into the hidden realities behind beauty, and ambition and becoming a model and the emotional violence and exploitation in this area.

So this is not an autobiography at all.

This is a literary work that inspired you to share this story and this person entrusted and confidence with this story.

It's been taking me years because I was doing little by little, go back to her notes and my notes and little by little I was making the book.

So that's how I, you know, I met her through Facebook.

Who are they going to tell? What are they going to do about it?

emotional abuse doesn't get the same, carry the same weight in our society when it's directed towards men from their spouse or their significant other.

I know I experienced it for many years in my relationship and it was devastating.

There was somebody who's close to me and Tantu once relayed a story of told by somebody else that, you know, they wish they were physically abused versus emotionally abused because that would have been much easier to deal with.

They chose to bury it.

Let's talk about what happens because, you know, we can talk around this.

Let's talk about what does abuse look like, emotional abuse look like in relationships, if you're open to share.

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