No-fault divorce

People think that the judge is like some magical god who's going to look over everything that's been done and that we've always got to, well, the judge is going to see it like there's some kind of parental figure that's going to read everything and adjudicate whether you've been good or bad, which in my experience doesn't happen, except maybe on very rare occasions.

But also there's this idea that if we admit something or let something go, we're going to be proved to be wrong and proved to be a bad person.

And I think that the change in the law to no-fault divorces, it was designed to remove that, but it's still very much in place that somebody has to be a goody and a baddie.

Do you think that? What do you think about that? Do you think that's going to

happen? an important thing to say up front is i think no fault divorce was the best change we've made yeah through the law but what what it has potentially had the inadvertent consequence is you used to get to your divorce petition say all these horrible things get them off your chest feel seen because you know that had gone before a judge whoever had that allegation to make or whatever it was felt like oh good right i've almost had my day in court with that i feel so much better right what's next whereas now people are coming in going i'm about to explode and i need to vent somewhere and yeah okay they can vent to me but that's nowhere near as satisfying as feeling seen by particularly so then people are bringing it into the other elements to the finances and the children because now that's that's a sad state of affairs and we try and work away from that but They're only human at the end of the day.