Nedra Glover Tawwab

Hey, welcome back to 7-Minute Books.

I'm Sam, and today we're talking about Drama Free by Nedra Glover Tawwab.

Sophie, I have to ask, why do we put up with so much nonsense from the people we love?

That's the exact question this book answers, and it's not what you'd expect.

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... deep dive with Nedra Tawwab, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, Vienna Pharaon, me, and Dr. Shefali.

So it's-

Amazing

If his parents are asking y'all what feel like personal questions as a way to, um, manipulate this relationship, that boundary is really important.

And by the way, I love the way Nedra Tawwab says it.

She says it so beautifully.

"Boundaries are a way for us to continue being connected."

Which brings us to book number two.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab.

Does the world feel more brittle to you? People less patient, more demanding, quicker to push past your limits? This book is about something many of us were never taught how to do, setting clear, healthy limits with coworkers, family members, friends, even ourselves.

Nedra makes an essential point early on.

What's that, what's another per- ...

Uh, Nedra Tawwab.

Yeah.

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In which case, that's like there might be some older stuff that it might be worth being able to sort of separate out or potentially, if you are able to see a therapist about, just to sort of free you up a bit, if that makes sense.

Just to go back to my original point about boundaries, if you want to understand them and kind of give yourself a bit of robust psychological kind of insight that you can develop and use, there's a book by Nedra Glover Tawwab called Set Boundaries, Find Peace, and she really gives sound, practical, and accessible advice about how to hold good boundaries and how that can, you know, the people say good boundaries make a good relationship, good neighbors, and so I think that might be worth looking at.

Because the other thought that comes to mind is that there's so much guilt that comes, you know, of I want to be a good daughter.

I really love my dad, and I want to make a difference, and I feel bad when I can't improve his lot.