So break this down for me.

Yes.

The positive feedback loop is it starts way before you need to present.

The more time you have, of course, the better you can be for the presentation.

This is realistic for some people, it's not realistic for others, but whatever period of time you have, divide it into two and dedicate the first 50% to creating your slides, your messaging, your presentation, and then leave 50% of whatever prep time you have to work on the delivery.

And that is step one of building the positive feedback loop, where you are prepping.

You are building both your confidence and your competence because you are challenging limiting beliefs.

Hmm.

What are you feeling the day before?

Excitement.

A lot of excitement.

And I learned this early on.

So the body produces the same physiological reaction.

Again, this has been studied.

to both nerves and excitement.

Why would I get so nervous just because I was up on stage with someone?

[laughs]

I was adopted, I was adopted by my parents when they were in their 50s, which meant that I was the youngest in the family by far, so no one cared what I had to say about anything.

I was the kid who didn't have a voice, and even at that age, when I was growing up, there was this conflict between the extroverted side of me, where I was like, "I need to express my opinions.

I need to have a say," and the fact that no one ever listened to me except when I was performing.

So I found this by accident, that when I would perform a poem for the family, everyone would actually listen and pay attention.

It was the time when I had a voice.

So I discovered the power of being in the spotlight super early, got addicted to it.

Mm-hmm

[laughs]

I was adopted by my parents when they were well into their 50s, which means that I was the youngest in the entire family by far.

Which meant my voice never mattered.

I was the child who was shushed, except there was always this part of me that was fighting against it.

I wanted my voice to be heard, even at that age when I don't even know what I had to say, but I really wanted that attention.

I wanted my voice to matter.

So I started performing poems for the family.

So what, what advice would you give them?