Why? When you started doing research or you've had coaching clients, why is that the thing that becomes the deal breaker, that becomes this definition of who we are? And why does it fucking hurt so bad?

Well, I started to think like, what does it mean to be in relationship with someone? Like, how do we know we're in relationship? And So one way is we try to build the security and we get to know everything about them.

And we are like building this ground under our relationship.

And the more and more we know about them, we know everything they do.

We know everything they think we build the security and it feels like a ground and we know what it is.

And I think what is the wild part is, That infidelity can do in no other way that anything else can do is it wakes us up to the fact that we actually have no fucking clue what our partner is actually thinking or doing.

But we have this delusion that we do.

And