What made you ask?

Yeah, I think...

I had never thought about that before growing up.

It wasn't one of those questions that I had burning inside of me my entire adult life, teen life, childhood.

No, it wasn't one of those.

But in getting even more invested and deep into this work, I hear a lot of language from couples who are looking to adopt that speaks as if adoption will fix everything.

infertility as if adoption will minimize or eliminate the grief or the pain of infertility which hits as an adoptee like a band-aid oh all of this pressure of being a feeling better of not being sad of not getting what you want or what you or what you feel like should be happening now all of that pressure is being put on this child to make that not there and It's something that I just became a lot more in tune with hearing it, just hearing potential adoptive parents speak or people on the internet that are looking for a birth mother or a baby that they can adopt privately and kind of the language around that.

In my