Meg-John Barker

It's also a, you know, it's a biopsychosocial construct, but it's also a cultural construct.

There is power, you know, and relationships to power that we have depending on our positionalities when it comes to gender as well as to sexuality, right? And so I would love, you know, for those things to be approached kind of the way that my writing partner, MJ Barker, and I approach them in our, in our books, how to understand your gender, how to understand your sexuality, and how to understand your relationship.

Let's look at this whole idea of gender.

Let's break it wide open.

One of my favorite authors writing about sex, gender, sexuality, and relationships is Dr. Meg John Barker.

And I recommend rewriting the rules as one of my favorite books ever.

to really start to think about how you create the relationship that you want and do it with your own rules, your own boundaries, put all the things in it you want and leave out the things you don't.

And it's called An Anti-Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex, and Relationships.

So what we would call heteronormative, you would still get stuff out of reading it because it really helps you think about what are the things that are important in your relationships and And what are the things that actually don't suit you? And I mean, many of you have heard me talk about this over and over again that lots of people pick the relationship box off the shelf and it's got all these expectations and rules and regulations in it and they just sort of swallow it whole and don't even consider what they're being asked.

or whether these things actually work for them at all.

So rewriting the rules, fabulous book, highly recommend that.

Meg John has three graphic novel, four graphic novels out.