Liking gap

There's been a lot of new research on our impression, uh, sort of our impressions of what other people think of us and where they're wrong and how we tend to underestimate how much other people end up liking us.

And so there's something called the liking gap, um, which I have written about before in my previous-

I've not heard of this

That's-- Oh, the liking gap is such a, it's, like, such a great finding to know because it will just make you feel better right away.

Um, when we interact with another person, so researchers will, like, get two people together, they interact, they walk away from each other, and then they ask them, like, "How much did you like that person that you just interacted with?" And they'll also ask them, "How much do you think that person liked you?" And on average, when we walk away from those conversations, we underestimate how much the other person liked us.

We're like, "Oh, I really liked them.

And the thing that people often, they, you know, they go in thinking, like, "How am I, what stories am I gonna tell to impress this person? What information can I convey that would make them like me?" But the biggest thing that actually makes people like you is to ask them questions and let them talk about themselves.

Like we were saying, people love to talk about themselves.