... we can do this.

Yes.

I love this so much.

So I'm gonna give a little bit of a context about, so when we're children and we grow up, even in the most well-intentioned environments with, like, the well-intentioned [laughs] caregivers, our psychological safety mechanism in our brain is just wired to seek out dignity, safety, and belonging, and love.

To feel seen, loved, and heard.

And when we're growing up in a world where, like, our parents are also patriarchalized, like, God love them, and, like, they've learned from this, you know, version of the culture, we can learn that there are conditions around dignity, safety, and belonging.

So, like, it might be that in order for you to get the blessing from your father, you must be more polite or you must be more pleasing or you must be more, you know, fill in the blank.

[laughs]