And when you look back from all of the all the work that you've done now and What were there any signs that if you were to look back in hindsight to say that maybe there were signs that a betrayal would have

happened? Yes.

And that's the interesting part of my job, because when we look at the deeper patterns, the deeper underlying, I like to call them underlying beliefs.

Some people call them limiting beliefs.

I call them underlying beliefs.

I don't like the word limiting.

which matches podcast, when we look at them, when we look at our own patterns, our own behaviors in a relationship, then yes, there are always signs, but we tend to ignore them.

yes really yes talk me through that because i think that's that's a it i think it goes back to the theory of detachment it's like they can smell yes when you're over them so i'd love you to talk through the psychology of that and the pattern that