Like, are we actually, is this like a content thing more than a real thing? Are we putting too much pressure on the heterosexual relationship?

I, okay, I'm glad that you brought this up because here's the thing.

We have been, forever, we have been told as women, like, your goal in life is to find a man, right? Like, you are going to be validated by a man.

Every movie, Disney movie, rom-com, it's like, your goal in life is to be chosen.

Mm-hmm.

And to be single as a woman or to be child free as a woman, right? Childless is what we used to say, especially like into your 30s is like super tragic.

Even in extremely progressive shows that we still love today, like Sex and the City, right? They're all like, we're 32 and single, like shoot us now.

though? I feel like an obnoxious person is not curious.

Pretty good

... pretty good, I think.

I know what this fuckhead is talking about because this is something I talk about in therapy all the time.

When I look back at my life, having been single for now like three, four years, I can say for certain that I am someone who is more stable and has a higher just like life contentment mode when I am single.

But it's because I can look back at my relationships and be like, "I was in more volatile or just like destabilizing relationships." And I think that it does fuck with my brain a little bit because you're like, part of me is like, "Oh my God, getting in a relationship seems scary," because it just destabilizes your life.

It makes you less happy.

But my therapist often reminds me, "No, you just don't know what it's like to be in a stable relationship." So I do think relationships can increase your life happiness, but it has to be a good relationship.

So is this really just dictated by a desire for likes?