Julie Gottman
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Nov 10, 2026
Julie GottmanSOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
So one has to be so exquisitely careful when you're speaking a truth to somebody.
Kathleen HannaHOST
Doctors Julie and John Gottman are world-renowned psychologists and researchers who have devoted their lives to understanding marital conflict and fostering healthy relationships.
John GottmanSOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
It's important to be truthful.
John GottmanSOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
You can do it in a way that is gentle and loving, but suppressing it is likely to lead to a quagmire.
Myesha CherrySOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
It requires a certain kind of attunement and attentiveness, certain kind of humility, certain kind of sacrifice.
Myesha CherrySOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
So suffering with.
Myesha CherrySOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
Julie Gottman.
Julie GottmanSOUNDBITE_SPEAKER
I think of compassion as connecting with the interior world of another individual and feeling what they're feeling, empathizing with what they're feeling, really trying to understand what they're feeling.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
I mean, books like Eight Dates by Drs.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
John and Julie Gottman, Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, If the Buddha Dated, I mean, The Hoffman Process, Untethered Souls.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
So she saw The Buddha Dated, and she made a comment about that.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
And I said, hey, do you remember me? We spoke before.
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Jonathon AslayGUEST
that sort of thing, that would be a fantastic resource.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
For those dating, I highly recommend reading the book Eight Dates by Drs.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
John and Julie Gottman, along with Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.
Jonathon AslayGUEST
I invite you to read the book If the Buddha Dated.
Jay StringerGUEST
very angry at that.
Jay StringerGUEST
So John and Julie Gottman, some of the worldwide leaders in marriage, when they were talking about anger, they used to classify it as a more negative emotion that people would have.
Jay StringerGUEST
And yes, that's true if it moves towards contempt, but they've reclassified anger as an approach emotion, meaning...
Jay StringerGUEST
the opposite of love is not anger or hatred.
Anti.ProphetGUEST
I think the reason I'm critical of red pill stuff is just because no real – relationship, you know, researcher would purport the majority of the ideas that Red Pill kind of purports.
Anti.ProphetGUEST
You know, you look at people like John and Julie Gottman, who have been studying successful relationships for, you know, 30 or 40 years.
Anti.ProphetGUEST
You know, I would much prefer to follow them rather than some guy who started a podcast three years because he saw a bunch of angry men online that he knew he could make money from.
Anti.ProphetGUEST
So that's the reason I'm critical of it.
NickGUEST
That's a great book.
NickGUEST
And then there is John and Julie Gottman, the Gottmans, very popular couples therapists that have the book Fight Right.
NickGUEST
These are all great books to really understand.
NickGUEST
There's frameworks, but understand kind of like the...
Nahum KozakGUEST
so like for example when i was going through um like relationships that just didn't quite work out for lots of different reasons and um yeah that's where i sort of first heard about uh things like uh john gottman and julie gottman like their their and their 45 years of of research into relationships what makes relationships work
Declan KluverHOST
mate thanks for coming on so it's um it's going to be a good conversation obviously about couples therapy how like how does one go about actually getting into becoming a couples therapist in the first place like what's your story where did it all come from
Nahum KozakGUEST
I like that you talk about it as if I had a plan instead of like falling into it backwards accidentally.
Declan KluverHOST
I was in a successful relationship.
Nahum KozakGUEST
Luckily, it wasn't like, you know, seven years earlier when I'd had a string of like relationships that just didn't quite work out for lots of different reasons.
Nahum KozakGUEST
And yeah, that's where I sort of first heard about things like John Gottman and Julie Gottman and their 45 years of research into relationships, what makes relationships work.
Nahum KozakGUEST
But it was kind of interesting because they taught me there and I had a fantastic person teaching me who used to be a nurse.
Nahum KozakGUEST
So her background was quite different.
Jay ShettyHOST
She was asking for repair.
Jay ShettyHOST
When John and Julie Gottman came on my podcast, we talked about their research showing that 69% of relationship problems never get solved.
Jay ShettyHOST
Julie mentioned that couples will come back 20 years later having the exact same argument.
Jay ShettyHOST
Underneath those recurring arguments, she said, there is usually some underlying dream or deep emotional history that has never been brought into the light.
Mark GrovesHOST
almost guarantee.
Mark GrovesHOST
Well, I would go back and listen to a podcast episode I did with Julie Gottman, and it's on betrayal and infidelity.
Mark GrovesHOST
And there's a part of it that is part of the process of the repairing is atonement, actually atoning, actually taking the time to rebuild the trust and And you as the person who's been betrayed gets to ask for what that atonement looks like.
Mark GrovesHOST
Just like in the first letter, it's about saying, this is what I need to rebuild trust.
Seth StudleyHOST
And this isn't like maintenance as a chore.
Seth StudleyHOST
This is, oh, what builds up to good relationships? And John and Julie Gottman, which if you don't know about the Gottmans, go check them out.
Seth StudleyHOST
They are amazing.
Seth StudleyHOST
They talk about different ratios.
AmandaHOST
It lets them meet you where you are instead of where you're pretending to be.
LauraHOST
This actually connects to some research from some researchers I really respect, Dr. John and Julie Gottman.
LauraHOST
They have spent decades studying what makes relationships last.
LauraHOST
And they have this concept called a bid for connection.
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