Invisible loyalties

And I was exposed to Nagy's ideas in the early 70s when I was in graduate school, when Nagy was just starting to write.

I think his, not his first publication, but the first book I believe was, or the first major book was Invisible Loyalties, published in 1973 or 4.

Um, I grew up with the field of family therapy.

There were like three or four books you could read and you would get the field.

And he says, if we deny those loyalties and don't.

be there for our parents as they get older or are very angry at them, when we may then reenact that dynamic with our parents, but in a destructive way with our partner or our child.

He calls these invisible loyalties, right? That was one of his first books is invisible loyalties.

So there's no free lunch.