Gail Saltz

teachers who... sexually abused male students sometimes convince themselves that the relationship is legitimate.

That's from Gail Saltz, clinical associate professor of psychiatry at Cornell University.

They're more likely to be psychologically both grooming their victims but also what's called self-grooming.

So they are convincing themselves that what they are doing is having an intimate, romantic relationship that is benefiting the victim as well.

Welcome to How Can I Help? I'm Dr.

Gail Saltz.

I'm a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, and bestselling author.

And I'm here every week to answer your most pressing questions, hopefully with understanding, insight, and advice.

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[gentle music] So let's get to my listener's question and see, how can I help? "Dear Dr.

Saltz, my son is 10, and he has always been a sensitive child and, as a result, kind of a difficult child.

Many things bother him, and he gets easily upset.

Welcome to How Can I Help? I'm Dr.

Gail Saltz.

I'm a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, and bestselling author.

And I'm here every week to answer your most pressing questions, hopefully with understanding, insight, and advice.

Welcome back.

Let's get to my listener's question and see, how can I help? Dear Dr.

Saltz, I work at a company where sometimes we stay after work for drinks, even a meeting with clients that includes dinner and drinks.

Ever since a coworker who I've developed a relationship with has joined my group, my husband's expressed that he feels less and less comfortable with these after-work meetups.

Welcome to How Can I Help? I'm Dr.

Gail Saltz.

I'm a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, and bestselling author.

And I'm here every week to answer your most pressing questions, hopefully with understanding, insight, and advice.

Sometimes though, they do get worse, particularly if you fail to receive support and positive validation, and even encouragement from supervisors or peers, which then robs you of the pleasure of what you're achieving, and in the long run, can undermine your ability to perform.

So with that, let's get to my listener's question and ask, how can I help? Dear Dr.

Saltz, I just started medical school, and it has been my dream for years, and I've worked so hard to get here.

Nonetheless, I find myself walking around thinking everyone in my class is smarter, more able, and that sooner or later it's going to become apparent I don't belong here.

Welcome to How Can I Help? I'm Dr.

Gail Saltz.

I'm a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital, a psychoanalyst, and best-selling author.

And I'm here every week to answer your most pressing questions, hopefully with understanding, insight, and advice.

Welcome back.

Let's get to my listener's question and see, how can I help? Dear Dr.

Saltz, I have never had trouble with sleep in the past, but I have a new job and I am finding myself very stressed.

And in this setting, I am having trouble falling asleep.

Welcome to Psychoanalysis and You, the official podcast of the American Psychoanalytic Association.

I'm your host, Dr. Gail Saltz.

The American Psychoanalytic Association is the largest U.S. member organization of professional psychoanalysts, and this podcast will highlight the work of various member analysts and how that work can be of use to you in your day-to-day life.

So I'm joined today by Todd Essek.

If you found this episode useful, please share with a friend or colleague.

And we will be back next month with another episode of Psychoanalysis and You.

I'm Dr. Gail Saltz, and it's been my pleasure to be your host of Psychoanalysis and You.

And now for some Freudian quickies.