Future self

[upbeat music] What is up? I'm Grace Beverly, and welcome back to Working Hard, the podcast shaped guidebook on how to improve your own life and achieve what you actually dreamed of doing, because life's too short for boring podcasts and bad advice.

[upbeat music] Welcome to episode two of the Future Self series.

If you've not heard episode one yet, I'd go back and start there because that's exactly where we break down exactly what this whole series is about, and also it will be getting yourself set up to be able to reverse engineer the ideal life you want.

All of this is set up almost as a course, so yes, you can dip in where you want to, but it is designed to be able to give you an end-to-end way of being able to reverse engineer your ideal life.

I'm Jemma Sbeg.

Thank you so much, Grace, for passing over the mic.

I'm thrilled to be one of your cover teachers for this Future Self series.

If you are a longtime follower of Working Hard, you might recognize me from previous episodes I've done with Grace or my own podcast, The Psychology of Your 20s, now on Netflix.

That's right, guys on Teachers' Lounge we will help you catch up with all the latest news and also behind the scenes look at what's going on with 15MINS。And today we will be covering the latest learning tips。今天我们要来跟大家分享我们新的书本的分享哦，因为我们最近又看到一些书，然后又觉得......欸？这些 learning tips 呢还是非常值得跟大家分享的。那阿健老师我们今天这本书叫——

今天这一本是 Be Your Future Self Now。

Be Your Future Self Now ，当你未来的自己啊。

遇见未来自我啦，用未来的自我学会活在当下。这翻译变得很长。[笑声]

哇哇哇哇哇喔，感觉很 deep 啊，这一本怎么这么难？By Benjamin Hardy。那在这边呢，其实我看了这本书的 summary，然后去 I, I dug up a little bit about Benjamin and everything。我觉得Benjamin 这个呢应该是可能从他的自身的人生旅途来去看的这件事情。那这一本书跟 learning 有没有关系呢？其实我认为 not directly，可是他对 learner 有 direct influence。

没错。

嗯。

那阿健老师讲到 future self 这件事青，我们往往.....呃......我不知道你们在台湾的国高中有沒有做这件事情，可是我们小时候呢，在国高中的时候，在 high school 的時候，老师呢为了 creative writing， 为了启发我们有些 assignment 就会什么 write a letter to the20 year old you 或者是 the30 year old you 或者 the40 year old you。

So for example, we can work with banks where we ask, when you start an account for retirement or any savings account, we can let you label it.

And when people label one of those accounts for experiences, they tend to be more likely to open an account and they're more likely to put money into the account because I can think about my future self wanting to go to Paris.

That is a salient enough to me that I think, oh, maybe I should actually save for that person in 10 years.

They want to go to Paris.

Hi there and welcome to this pick a card Today, we're going to be connecting with your future self and seeing if they have any messages, guidance or advice for you I was inspired by quite a lot of TikToks I saw recently on the quantum theory that essentially your future self exists in the way you envision them and they're already living the life that you're desiring which is why you desire it It's just happening further down your timeline and so it's another way of saying what you're seeking is also seeking you You are meant to match up with your desires because that is literally your future reality which is why you desire it and that really speaks to me I feel like I've had many times in the past where I just kind of knew that certain things would happen the way they are currently unfolding My hope is that these readings today give you that sense of conviction as well or remind you of why you feel so strongly towards certain visions and goals of yours I'm also very excited to be partnering with Audible for this video so I thought that today, instead of just the crystals, you can also have Audible titles to choose from So I have handpicked three audiobooks that really connect with me, two of which I've completed One I'm still working on and we're going to be looking at them later after the meditation to choose your reading today Soften your eyebrows and soften your gaze Gently part the lips and release your jaw Allow your entire face to melt and soften Lower the shoulders too and just arrive in your body Arrive in this moment Drop your awareness down down down into your heart space Feel into the center of your chest to listen for intuition and emotional resonance Listen to the readings today with your heart space and be sure to only take the messages that elicit a feeling of peace of lightness and of clarity Now if you're ready, you can open your eyes to look at the 3 groups before you For group 1, I have selected The Autobiography of a Yogi by Parahamsa Yogananda This is a pretty popular read by spiritual seekers and those who practice yoga I really enjoyed listening to this on my walks and it brought me a lot of calm and curiosity and inspiration as well to continue on my spiritual path Along with this, we also have the clear quartz crystal to help you choose For group 2, we have Woman Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Estes She is a Jungian analyst and in this audiobook which she narrates herself She brings these Jungian archetypes to life through her storytelling and it is so well done I was actually recommended to listen to the audiobook instead of reading the actual book because of how excellently she narrates and I would highly recommend this if you resonate with the female experience if you're wanting to understand feminine archetypes and just wanting empowerment in that area of your life I listened to this audiobook as I was going through a breakup and it was so healing To help you choose, group 2 also has smoky quartz For group 3, we have The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate and Daniel Mate Gabor Mate is a leading voice in the field of somatic psychology In this audiobook, he talks about how we live in a toxic culture which isn't conducive to human health and it is the reason why mental illness and chronic diseases are on a rise at the moment and it just breaks down a lot of the things that we've come to normalize in modern medicine which is so awakening as you listen to it and I'm still working on this title but I'm already so amazed by the amount of research that he's put into this so I'd also really recommend that you listen to this with me and to help you choose, group 3 also has pineapple calcite Now I invite you to soften your gaze and just notice which audiobook cover stands out to you which crystal stands out to you As you listen to me describe these titles Which had a bigger impact on you? You don't have to feel called to actually listen to these audiobooks but maybe the title connects with you in a special way or maybe a particular word in one of the titles connects with you in a particular way It doesn't actually have to be the entire audiobook or how I described it If all else fails, you can focus on the crystals and the crystals only Once you've chosen your groove, you can go down to the timestamps below to click on your reading and I'll see you over there If you chose group 1, clear chords or the autobiography of a yogi then this is your reading Hi group 1 Apologies for the sudden shift in lighting I'm actually filming this reading on a different day I couldn't get around to it the other night So, the sun is going to set in about an hour, I believe For now, we still have some natural lighting So let's start with some oracle messages to get a rough idea of what your future self wants to communicate to you just right off the bat Group 1, what does your future self want to tell you? There's definitely something here about a dream, a vision, a goal You have your dreams need a practical plan, full moon in Taurus and you also have, have faith in your dreams, waxing crescent moon So your future self wants to talk about a particular dream of yours and how you need to have faith in it but at the same time take actionable practical steps towards it You have inner temple devotion tuned into the portal of your heart There's also a spiritual call here Your future self wants you to be more heart centered to practice more devotion and prayer You have Council of Light Divine orchestration helpers in the subtle realms So your future self wants you to know that you're not in this alone From their perspective, they can see that everything was divinely orchestrated in the way that they came together and it can be helpful to have that perspective now So that in working towards your dream You can be rest assured that your faith isn't misled that there are other elements to this happening for you and it's not all just up to you Let's get some more Soul's Oracle cards Group 1, what does your future self want you to know? Okay, tell us more.

Group 1 You have decay and restlessness as well as guidance So I'm seeing here that your future self really wants to emphasize that you have helpers in the subtle realms that there are energies surrounding you wanting to support you and guide you and I think that's why you have inner temple as well If you practice more devotion and more prayer If you connect with your heart space and allow yourself to soften into a more feminine kind of presence You can connect with that guidance that is readily available for you and I want to emphasize, seems like your future self wants to emphasize that they can see this now in retrospect that guidance could have been helpful that devotion and prayer could have been helpful instead of just relying on yourself they see this in retrospect which is why they want to communicate this to you So perhaps you've been very independent, maybe hyper-independent.

Maybe you've struggled to have faith in your dreams, your desires and goals because it's been all up to you up until now.

So look for guidance.

Have more prayer in your spiritual practice as that can help.

Decay and restlessness tells us that there's a need for you to expand out of your comfort zone It seems like currently you are bound by limits you've set for yourself There are these boundaries that you haven't dared to cross like a threshold You are limited by your own comfort zone at the moment and that is causing decay It's causing certain element of your life or of yourself to decay, to go sour, to go stale I'm just gonna pull some tarot cards on this Can you tell us more? Group 1's Future Self.

I don't know if you can hear that sound.

It's my pool.

So here's what I invite you to do.

You write a farewell letter to your future self because you have not quit smoking, and because you continue to smoke, you have experienced detrimental health issues, and you are writing this letter as the person that you are today, knowing that your future self will suffer from health issues and will suffer unnecessarily because you didn't quit smoking.

And you can then, in this letter, let all the emotions that you feel for your future self, all the shame, the regret, the despair, let this shine through in this letter.

And by doing this exercise, you then, of course, after you've written the letter, you then read it to yourself again.

And by doing that, you most likely will experience quite a few emotions.

And one of the emotions that my client shared with me was this deep feeling of regret for his future self, that he didn't do what's best for the future self, that he didn't save the future self, that he wasn't strong enough to save the future self.

And this letter can motivate you to an extent.

It can give you this rush of energy to never smoke a cigarette again.