Family Constellations

And actually, we can all slip into, let's be honest.

And, you know, in Family Constellation's work, there's sort of the dynamic and interrelationship between the victim and the perpetrator is always there.

And somebody who's in a victim mentality will always become a perpetrator in one way, shape or form.

So, for example, to use your supermarket example.

So the first thing is to acknowledge the people of the land and the tribe, Ngāti Kahungunu, where I live in Napier, New Zealand.

So, Yildiz, I was in one of your online family constellations training groups in 2024 and also participated in a weekend workshop in Sydney in July the same year.

That invaluable experience of representing in a large group at the same time as learning and observing your ultra-facilitator presence was the perfect rounding out of the training.

My first question is, for listeners who may not have encountered systemic constellations, would you describe constellations briefly as a modality in your understanding of the role of facilitator?

It actually is quite empowering.

to take in all that happened before us as a person in the present.

So that's basically family constellations.

Now, if you have been in a family system where you are displaced, And I mean that in a general sense because families are chaotic and there's lots of stuff happens in families.

If you haven't listened to those episodes yet, you may want to go back to them, but you can also begin right here because today we're taking the next step in this journey and beginning to explore the first of what I call the movements of the family soul.

This is an approach to family constellation work that I've developed in over almost 20 years of facilitating and working with clients.

I've seen this approach change so many lives for the better, and I'm happy you're joining me for this series where we'll go through each of the movements in the upcoming episodes.

For now, I ask you to consider, what if many of the struggles that you've been carrying throughout your life are not asking to be fixed, but simply to be understood through a different lens? In today's episode, we're going to explore the first of the movements of the family soul, the orders of love, and discover how allowing every member of the family soul to belong can restore the natural flow of love, life, and connection, creating the foundation for deeper healing and transformation.

We work hard to understand ourselves, to heal our wounds, and become the best version of who we can be.

While that journey is deeply valuable, there are times when personal growth alone doesn't seem to reach the root of what we're experiencing.

Family Constellation offers another beautiful perspective on this.

It suggests that we are not only shaped by our experiences, but also by the family system into which we were born.

So I am so honored and so excited.

If you don't know who he is, he is the author of the foundational text, It Didn't Start With You, which put me on to the world of Family Constellations.

He's the director of the Family Constellation Institute in the US, and he is renowned for his work that bridges epigenetics and somatic healing.

And that demonstrates how the traumas of our parents, our grandparents, and even great grandparents can live through our bodies as seemingly unexplained depression and anxiety and all sorts of, you know, mysterious phenomenon that we can't seem to otherwise decode in our own personal lives.

I want to look forward.

And then I was actually at a Family Constellation workshop.

And I woke up from a dream.

And I had a scene in my head.

So the first thing is to acknowledge the people of the land and the tribe, Ngāti Kahungunu, where I live in Napier, New Zealand.

So, Yildiz, I was in one of your online family constellations training groups in 2024 and also participated in a weekend workshop in Sydney in July the same year.

That invaluable experience of representing in a large group at the same time as learning and observing your ultra-facilitator presence was the perfect rounding out of the training.

My first question is, for listeners who may not have encountered systemic constellations, would you describe constellations briefly as a modality in your understanding of the role of facilitator?

It actually is quite empowering.

to take in all that happened before us as a person in the present.

So that's basically family constellations.

Now, if you have been in a family system where you are displaced, And I mean that in a general sense because families are chaotic and there's lots of stuff happens in families.