Expectation

... to me, one of the biggest ...

When I coach couples, one of the biggest conflicts comes from unexpressed expectation.

expectation.Mm. Yeah

So I had a couple that got into a giant fight because the woman was furious that he didn't buy her a diamond necklace for Valentine's Day.

Mm-hmm.

And this is a result of consistency and discipline and making sure that you are staying in alignment with who you really are, what your values really are, And after some time, you then move into overflow.

And overflow is the opposite of overwhelm where, you know, overwhelm, we're very depleted because we are, in the cases of the clients I serve, they're women who are high achieving, but they have been trying to meet all these expectations.

Expectations.

from everyone else, and then they lose themselves in the process.

Overflow is where you actually make sure that you're good, right? You make sure that you are not overextending yourself, that you are not placing yourself in commitments or trying to meet expectations of people that those expectations are not in alignment with who you are.