Emotional intimacy

Right.

And a lot of times it will show in emotional intimacy.

Or lack

of emotion.

The lack of emotional intimacy.

Y'all don't hold hands.

Y'all don't stare each other in the eye.

Because you like that, you can have that same thing, but you got to have some application behind it.

I should consider saying the things.

And then those are perfect examples of things I absolutely should say because it's like my partner, like the person who you have the most emotional intimacy with, ideally, who you can say anything to.

You can tell them anything.

If not, kind of what are we going for? So this person...

at all.

So now I want to talk about affectional and emotional intimacy.

Facts number one, affectional intimacy.

This is the physical expression of fondness and that has nothing to do with sex, such as holding hands, a hand on the small of your back, walking through a parking lot, a hug that lasts more than two seconds, a kiss that is not a transaction, hello, goodbye, goodnight, and having to be on its way to something else.

And that is exactly backwards.

And so when sex feels hard, affection matters more, not less, because it tells your body and your partner's body that connection is still safe even when things are strained.

Facet number two, emotional intimacy.

This is the one that everybody says that they want and almost nobody actually practices because emotional intimacy requires two things most out of us and that most of us actually avoid.

And the relationship slowly loses tenderness.

Now let us speak about emotional intimacy.

This is the most delicate part of the Purnima-Chatterdashi pairing.

Purnima's emotional body wants love that feels visible.

Yeah, a phenomenon.

If you were to give from your book on how to fight right advice to people who are feeling that frustration and that angst with the dating culture right now, and they do want to change it for the better because they are looking for emotional intimacy.

What's one tip that you would give them for how to fight right and to lead their protest in a way that provides the results are looking for rather than sabotage?

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were to give uh from your book on how to fight right advice to people who are feeling that frustration and that angst with the dating culture right now and they do want to change it for the better because they are looking for emotional intimacy what's one tip that you would give them for how to fight right and to lead their protest in a way that provides the results they're looking for rather than sabotage

can i answer this first yeah sure so you know Julie and I and our good friend Nicole have urged us to watch these mating shows like Love is Blind on television.

And slowly, intimacy becomes a battlefield of misunderstanding.

Now let us talk about emotional intimacy.

In emotional intimacy, Dashami wants softness.

Dashami wants kindness.

Dashami wants an atmosphere where feelings can breathe.

That's a man that hasn't developed the capacity to stay present inside another person's reality without abandoning their own and without making that person's reality about themselves.

That's emotional intimacy.

Instead of self-referencing... disguised as vulnerability, can you allow another person's emotional experience to exist without you taking the microphone, clamming up, withdrawing? What happens with your discomfort, huh? There's a deep wound in there.

It's time to really get it in check.

I think my favorite scene in the whole film is when Emmy asked Ben, just for the moment, to tell her that he loves her.

I felt the scene suddenly shift from physical intimacy to emotional intimacy.

What was Emmy really asking him in that moment? When I watched it, I felt Emmy wanted a moment to feel secure and to be in a world she truly desired.

Yeah, I think she's looking for...