Emily Nagoski
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Oct 27, 2026
Lisa EliesonHOST
But that person who's struggling to connect with their desire probably is going to need things like safety, security, playfulness, emotional connection.
Lisa EliesonHOST
Emily Nagoski talks about the rooms in the house, right? Where arousal is.
Lisa EliesonHOST
It's in her latest Come Together book.
Lisa EliesonHOST
So often I'll have a whole exercise I do to map the floor plan.
Monica TannerGUEST
And then the third thing that I do that I think I spent the most time doing is really figuring out the dynamic that exists between the couple.
Monica TannerGUEST
What did you learn about sex growing up? What did you not learn about sex growing up? What beliefs are you kind of centering your ideas on? What's getting in the way of this? I talk about it like Emily Nagoski talks about this garden, right? When we're growing up, we have no control over what's being planted in our garden.
Monica TannerGUEST
But when we grow up and we're adults and we're in a committed monogamous relationship, it's our responsibility to now look at what's being planted in the garden and are these things nourishing us and our relationship? We might have to, you know, pull things out, rototill the whole thing and start from scratch.
Monica TannerGUEST
Most people do.
Kelly SixHOST
Yeah.
Erin PhillipsHOST
Nagasaki, Nagasaki.
Erin PhillipsHOST
I think it's Nagasaki.
Kelly SixHOST
Nagasaki, yeah.
Kelly SixHOST
Emily Nagasaki and her sister wrote a book on burnout and they have some like pretty cool insights on like stress and like stress reduction and like completing your stress cycle.
Kelly SixHOST
Stress cycle.
Kelly SixHOST
So that's one of the places I go to.
Krista RoyamaHOST
And it is called Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.
Krista RoyamaHOST
And it's by Amelia and Emily Nagoski, I believe they're sisters.
Krista RoyamaHOST
It's one of my game changers.
Krista RoyamaHOST
I have
John DelonyHOST
I don't like that.
John DelonyHOST
Emily Nagoski did a great job kind of pulling that apart.
John DelonyHOST
I'm trying to think of a way I could say this and not sound like such a nerd.
John DelonyHOST
There's...
Jennie NashHOST
In the world of therapy, there's this concept of feeling your feelings, of letting your feelings flow through you so that you can feel them wholly and then let them go.
Jennie NashHOST
I learned about that concept in the amazing book called Burnout by Emily Nagoski.
Jennie NashHOST
That whole book was literally about this concept of feeling your feelings and how if you don't, you risk burning yourself out in all the ways, emotionally, physically, all the things.
Jennie NashHOST
So that idea has been in my mind in terms of living your life.
Tali RosenbaumHOST
We really wanted you on because we know that your approach is definitely unique and that you incorporate not only somatic practices, breathing, and other types of mindfulness, but you also have a very mystical, kabbalistic, Jewish approach to how you offer women their way to feel free and their way to touch their physical pleasure and sensations.
Tali RosenbaumHOST
So say a woman comes to you and she's never experienced an orgasm And she's tried all the conventional stuff, read the books, read Emily Nagoski's book that everyone's read, Come As You Are, and she's tried to use a vibrator and self-stimulate.
Tali RosenbaumHOST
She's tried everything.
Tali RosenbaumHOST
Nothing's worked.
Danielle BezalelHOST
But if we know these programs don't work, why are there billions of dollars funneled into them? I chatted with the sex researcher everyone knows and loves to learn more.
Emily NagoskiGUEST
I'm Emily Nagoski.
Emily NagoskiGUEST
I use she, her pronouns.
Emily NagoskiGUEST
I have been a sex educator for over 30 years now.
Madi MurphyHOST
So to me, an orgasm gap is a pleasure gap, is a permission gap, is a power gap.
Madi MurphyHOST
And there is an amazing book by Dr. Emily Nagoski, anyone who wants to go further into this work, it's called Come As You Are.
Madi MurphyHOST
And she talks about this thing called the dual control model that was actually developed by Kinsey Institute researchers.
Madi MurphyHOST
And You know, she talked about this as in the book that we each have an accelerator, the things that turn us on, the things that get us going, that rev our engines.
Christopher FuellingGUEST
And it's a countable ritual co-creation.
Christopher FuellingGUEST
And we are in situations in our lives all the time where we are, to use Emily Nagoski's terms, in different degrees of consent, right? Like, Do you really consent to every use of your tax dollars by our
Brian ZaneHOST
government?
Christopher FuellingGUEST
That would be something like coerced consent, right? Like literally there's a threat.
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