DARVO

And I'm not a violent person and have never been known to be.

This inversion, in which an accused perpetrator reframes themselves as the true victim, is a hallmark of what psychologist Jennifer Frey termed DARVO—deny, attack, reverse dictum, and offender.

Frey's research found that DARVO is a common response of perpetrators when they are held accountable for their behavior.

The perpetrator denies the behavior, attacks the credibility of the accuser, and then reverses the roles, positioning themselves as the wronged party and the actual victim as the aggressor or instigator.

Remember, Sarah can do no wrong.

She attacks by saying her husbands were all horrible.

And she reverses by saying that she is a victim of negative media coverage.

DARVO is most commonly studied in the context of sexual assault and domestic violence, where perpetrators use it against their victims.

And this all ties into the propaganda as well.

And it's kind of like the way that they usually are doing it is it's almost like a society wide systemic level of Darvoing where they're

like

reversing the whole victim and offender roles.

But the, and now, and his willingness, unwillingness to accept any responsibility, his willingness to say, oh, this is just you for wanting to paint me in a bad light.

Remember, we talk about DARVO, that idea of deny, attack, reverse victim, offender.

That's exactly what this is.

Denied, no, no, no, I did all these things for you.

And what Whitney is great at, though, is then taking that and flipping it around and talking about someone else.

I think that's called Darvo.

I don't know.

I

don't

think it's

Darvo.

I don't think it's that.

My final recommendation is to continue learning like always and forever as a Gemini rising, such as myself would say.

Some potential topics to learn about could include DARVO, which is the acronym for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

the mental health industrial complex, peer support, harm reduction, the intersections of rape culture and other forms of systemic violence, such as white supremacy, ableism, classism, heteronormativity, and so on, prison abolition, disability justice, the impacts of sanism, Um, which is prejudice and discrimination and violence against who we perceive to be quote unquote crazy.

This may involve thinking and reading and learning about involuntary institutionalization, how we dismiss survivors and refuse to believe, believe them.

And I'll be honest, he acted the exact same way at that time, about two weeks after I met him.

And that was the same, I guess, MO or like DARVO that he would do.

Throughout our entire relationship, it never changed.

It never got worse.

They stitch videos, they make AI images, they create dedicated hate accounts, and they spam comment sections for months or years to drive the target offline.

I literally had a creator tell their followers spam her comment section spam her comment section with this that and the other spam her comment section they know that their followers will engage in the most disgusting behaviors of doxing people of you know lying about people creating smear campaigns or they'll make videos and say things like we need to get this person's account taken down go mass report this person go do this that and the other like they will form a gang and they will go after a specific person and it's a little impressive the way that they can coordinate themselves i wish they would coordinate themselves like this against actual bad people in the community against the pdfs and you know against the grapists but don't hate the player hate the game i guess i don't know So then they will do a DARVO, deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.

And basically what it is is when they get called out, they deny and then they attack you.

And then they reverse the narrative so that they become the victim and you are the offender.