Daniel Coyle

We used the opportunity to remind ourselves of T.S. Eliot's wisdom that only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.

Today, I wanna chat about one of the big ideas from Dan Coyle's new book, Flourish, that literally changed my life, and in fact, confirmed my intuition that I needed to get back to creating these Plus Ones.

So the main theme of Flourish is the fact that we need to create the conditions in our lives for joy and meaning and fulfillment to show up.

Dan tells us you can't force flourishing, but you can and should cultivate the conditions that make it more likely.

Welcome back to another Heroic Plus One.

Yesterday, I read Dan Coyle's new book, Flourish.

It's all about how to create more meaning and joy in our lives.

It's fantastic.

Uh, as, as we're all talking, um, a book comes to mind.

There's a book called Culture Code by, uh, Daniel Coyle, I think the author is, and it's one of the best books I've ever read about culture, and he boils it down to three pillars upon which good culture is built, and they're, uh, build safety, share vulnerability, and establish purpose.

And, and I feel like I've heard all three of those things discussed between the stories, uh, that, that the two of you are sharing.

Um, I wonder, maybe we, uh, could we go around the table here, and if you can think of one story that you could share that exemplifies or illustrates one of those principles.

But I now realize it was a talent hotbed.

We're reading Daniel Coyle's book, The Talent Code.

It was a talent hotbed.

Uxbridge, Mass.

And I was eighth out of 137.

Dude, that's not normal.

And I didn't realize this until I started reading the Talent Hotbed, the Talent Code by Daniel Coyle again.

I just combined way too many concepts.

I'm really enjoying that.

And The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle is one of my favorites.

That's just like my-

Yeah.

What do you want now? What are your priorities now? Who are you when some of the roles and identities you've carried for years begin to change? And what's it like to create a new chapter when you can't really possibly know everything in advance on how exactly it'll work? There's some uncertainty and some risk.

So in this compilation episode, you'll hear from John Coleman, Marilee Adams, Deborah Santana, and Daniel Coyle.

Four different perspectives, but one central thesis.

The next chapter of your life might be less about something that you're retiring into.

Here's a big mistake to avoid.

Believing that you have to know exactly, precisely, what that new identity will be like and what your new life will look like before you begin.

Daniel Coyle offers a very different approach.

Yeah, the yellow door is an idea from a Columbia University psychologist, Lisa Miller.

So I think the first thing is like commit to being a category in your learning to learn how to communicate.

And so, you know, it could be one of my favorite books actually is not about social media whatsoever, but it changed how I look at social media, which is Daniel Coyle's Culture Code.

When you understand more about how groups of people interact with each other, it changes your decisions about how you interact with the groups.

So that's a really, really powerful one.

adam and i've spoken to him a couple of times uh via email uh and it's not fallen right but uh hopefully you know i will continue to uh to to pressure him and yeah

a few others um is daniel coyle um daniel's just written a beautiful book called flourish And what I found incredible about Daniel's book was he talks about, and I didn't know this, and it's incredible.

You know how we struggle with uncertainty today and there's so much burnout in the workforce today? He explains through actually it was in a professor at Oxford University in the UK where they've been studying the brain for the last 30 years that our brains actually have two operating systems.

one's called the controlling attention system that wants to control everything and have everything certain and set squared and you know very granular but we also have a much bigger operating system called the connected operating system or connected attention system and that zooms out to the bigger picture and surrenders to the unknown and almost enjoys uncertainty and since we were cavemen those two operating systems work in unison right they work together but the connected one is more powerful and more important Now they work together, like kill or be killed.