Conflict avoidance

He goes full talking about risk mode, like avoiding hard conversations kills love.

But the jump from conflict avoidance to pornography being the root cause is wild.

Wait, the pornography part? He frames it as you're not desperate anymore, so you stop pursuing real intimacy.

That sounds convenient, right? Like desperation as a feature of romance.

Fun, until it isn't fun

Exactly.

And he ties it to conflict avoidance.

Talking about risks harms relationships

I love to finish a [laughs] conversation and say, "Have a lovely day," da da da, however that is.

Seems to be more fear of conflict avoidance-

Right

... and then also just not wanting to kind of emotion overwhelm and the uncertainty of will I get to finish this or leave this before you can.