Betty Ford

And this time we felt very optimistic.

Within weeks or months, we were shocked at the hostility we faced from the heavyweight groups like Hazelden Foundation and Betty Ford, who were the main purveyors of the twist.

Because they immediately insisted, the Hazelden Foundation said, that alcoholism is not a medical condition.

And medications have no role to play in the treatment or prevention of alcoholism.

Yeah, so we have to raise the awareness about it because, and especially groups like churches, they have to get off this belief that, you know, it's a spiritual feeling, alcoholism.

If more churches talked about, you know, alcoholism to their congregants, talk about how much help, because almost every church basement has an AA group that meets.

And now, of course, Hazelden Foundation and Betty Ford have made a 180-degree turn.

Now they are strongly advocating.

He did.

Betty Ford James says, this is a program of honesty, but don't be that honest.

Fuck you.

Boy, does that resonate.

Another heartbreaking story, and Dave, you were great at helping him share.

Thank you.

Thank you, Betty Ford.

She goes on.

And this was in 1977.

And so it wasn't exactly in the more tolerant age of Betty Ford and all the other institutions.

However, I had the most incredible support from my colleagues with whom I worked who were padding around outside my door at work.

And so I've always found that it has been a distinct advantage to be more visible than invisible as far as my alcoholism has been concerned.

But then he never actually went to a recovery program.

So he canceled his Betty Ford visit.

And I see him drinking wine all the time, and he refers to self-medicating with wine to deal with Trump.

So you don't know if he's pro- Cocktails to go or anti.

having cancer surgery is what I'm having.

I'm not going to Betty Ford.

Not that anything's wrong with that, but

I think I'd rather go to Betty Ford than have the surgery.

Oh, my gosh.

All right, folks.

It was a, uh, county hospital.

It wasn't, wasn't, um, it wasn't Betty Ford and it wasn't Passages in Malibu.

It was good old-fashioned where junkies go.

And of the first...

a big hospital, St. John's hospital in Santa Monica.

Um, it was kind of like the West coast equivalent of kind of like a Betty Ford, so to speak.

I felt so fortunate to have this job, whatever they paid me.

It was like 35,000 to me.

Only at a Sleep Number store or sleepnumber.com.

THE GOVERNESS OR THE LITTLE FEMALE ACADEMY there lived in the northern parts of england a gentlewoman who undertook the education of young ladies and this trust she endeavoureth faithfully to discharge by instructing those committed to her care in reading writing working and in all proper forms of behaviour and though her principal aim was to improve their minds in all useful knowledge to render them obedient to their superiors and gentle kind and affectionate to each other yet did she not omit teaching them an exact neatness in their persons and dress and a perfect gentility in their whole carriage this gentlewoman whose name was teachem was the widow of a clergyman with whom she had lived nine years in all the harmony and concord which forms the only satisfactory happiness in the married state two little girls the youngest of which was born before the second year of their marriage was expired took up a great part of their thoughts and it was their mutual design to spare no pains or trouble in their education mr teachum was a very sensible man and took great delight in improving his wife as she also placed her chief pleasure in receiving his instructions one of his constant subjects of discourse to her was concerning the education of children so that when in his last illness his physicians pronounced him beyond the power of their art to relieve him he expressed great satisfaction in the thought of leaving his children to the care of so prudent a mother mrs teachum though exceedingly afflicted by such a loss yet thought it her duty to call forth all her resolutions to conquer her grief in order to apply herself to the care of these her dear husband's children but her misfortunes were not here to end for within a twelvemonth after the death of her husband she was deprived of both her children by a violent fever that then raged in the country and about the same time by the unforeseen breaking of a banker in whose hands almost all her fortune was just then placed she was bereft of the means of her future support the christian fortitude with which through her husband's instructions had armed her mind had not left it in the power of any outward accident to bereave her of her understanding or to make her incapable of doing what was proper on all occasions therefore by the advice of all her friends she undertook what she was so well qualified for namely the education of children but as she was moderate in her desires and did not seek to raise a great fortune she was resolved to take no more scholars than she could have an eye to herself without the help of other teachers and instead of making interest to fill her school it was looked upon as a great favor when she would take any girl and as her number was fixed to nine which she on no account would be prevailed on to increase great application was made when any scholar went away to have her place supplied and happy were they who could get a promise for the next vacancy mrs teachum was about forty years old tall and genteel in her person though somewhat inclined to fat she had a lively and commanding eye in so much that she naturally created an awe in all her little scholars except when she condescended to smile and talk familiarly to them and then she had something perfectly kind and tender in her manner her temper was so extremely calm and good that though she never omitted reprehending and that pretty severely any girl that was guilty of the smallest fault proceeding from an evil disposition yet for no cause whatsoever was she provoked to be in a passion but she kept up such a dignity and authority by her steady behaviour that the girls greatly feared to incur her displeasure by disobeying her commands and were equally pleased with her approbation when they had done anything worthy her commendation at the time of the ensuing history the school being full consisted of the nine following young ladies Miss Jenny Peace, Miss Nanny Spruce, Miss Zuki Janet, Miss Betty Ford, Miss Dolly Friendly, Miss Henny Fret, Miss Lucy Sly, Miss Polly Suckling, Miss Patty Lockett.

The eldest of these was but fourteen years old, and none of the rest had yet attained their twelfth year.

An account of a fray, begun and carried on for the sake of an apple, in which are shown the sad effects of rage and anger.

and only exposed herself ten times the more till she really got the better of miss jenny who blushed for her since she was incapable of blushing for herself lady fanny's dress was plain and neat only nor did she mention anything about it and it was very visible her thoughts were otherwise employed neither did she seem to take any delight in the words your ladyship but she tossed and threw her person about, into so many ridiculous postures, and as there happened, unfortunately, to be no looking-glass in the room where they sat, she turned and rolled her eyes so many different ways, in endeavouring to view as much of herself as possible, that it was very plain to the whole company she thought herself a beauty, and admired herself for being so.

our little society whose hearts were so open to each other that they had not a thought they endeavoured to conceal were so filled with contempt at lady caroline and lady fanny's behaviour and yet so strictly obliged by good manners not to show that contempt that the reserve they were forced to put on laid them under so great a restraint that they knew not which way to turn themselves or how to utter one word and great was their joy when lady caroline as the eldest led the way and with a swimming courtesy her head turned half round on one shoulder and a disdainful eye took her leave repeating two or three times the word mrs to put them in mind that she was a lady she was followed by her sister lady fanny who made a slow distinct curtsey to every one in the room that she might be the longer under observation and then taking miss jenny by the hand said indeed miss you are very pretty in order to put them in mind of her own beauty our little society as soon as they were released retired into their arbour where for some time they could talk of nothing but this visit miss jenny peace remarked how many shapes vanity would turn itself into and desired them to observe how ridiculously lady caroline dellon turned her whole thoughts on her dress and condition of life and how absurd it was in lady fanny who was a very plain girl to set up for a beauty and to behave in a manner which would render her contemptible even if she had that beauty her own vanity made her imagine herself possessed of miss nanny spruce said she was greatly rejoiced that she had seen her folly for she could very well remember when she had the same vanity of dress and superiority of station with lady caroline though she had not indeed a title to support it and in what manner she said she would tell them the story of her life the description of miss nanny spruce miss nanny spruce was just nine years old and was a very reverse of patty locket in all things for she had little limbs little features and such a compactness in her form that she was often called the little fairy she had the misfortune to be lame in one of her hips but by good management and a briskness and alacrity in carrying herself it was a very small blemish to her and looked more like an idle childish gait than any real defect the life of miss nanny spruce "'My delight,' said Miss Nanny Spruce, "'ever since I can remember "'has been in dress and finery, "'for whenever I did as I was bid, "'I was promised fine coats, ribbons, and laced caps, "'and when I was stubborn and naughty, "'then my fine things were all to be locked up, "'and I was to wear only an old stuff coat, "'so that I thought the only reward I could have "'was to be dressed fine, "'and the only punishment was to be plainly dressed.' by this means i delighted so much in fine clothes that i never thought of anything but when i should have something new to adorn myself in and i have sat whole days considering what should be my next new coat for i had always my choice given me of the colour we lived in a country parish my papa being the only gentleman so that all the little girls in the parish used to take it as a great honour to play with me and i used to delight to show them my fine things and to see that they could not come at any but very plain coats however as they did not pretend to have anything equal with me i was kind enough to them as to those girls whose parents were so very poor that they went in rags i did not suffer them to come near me whilst i was at home i spent my time very pleasantly as no one pretended to be my equal but as soon as i came to school where other misses were as fine as myself and some finer i grew very miserable every new coat every silver ribbon that any of my schoolfellows wore made me unhappy your scarlet damask miss betty ford cost me a week's pain and as i lay awake and sighed and wept all night because i did not dare to spoil it i had several plots in my head to have dirtied it or cut it so as to have made it unfit to wear by some accident my plots were prevented and then i was so uneasy i could not tell what to do with myself and so afraid lest anybody should suspect me of such a thing that i could not sleep in peace for fear i should dream of it and in my sleep discover it to my bedfellow i would not go through the same dreads and terrors again for the world but i am very happy now in having no thoughts but what my companions may know for since that quarrel and miss jenny peace was so good as to show me what i'm sure i never thought of before that is that the road to happiness is by conquering such foolish vanities and the only way to be pleased is to endeavour to please others i have never known what it was to be uneasy as soon as miss nanny had finished speaking miss betty ford said that she heartily forgave her all her former designs upon her scarlet coat but added she lady fanny dillon put me no less in mind of my former life than lady caroline did you of yours and if miss jenny pleases i will now relate it the description of miss betty ford miss betty ford was of the same age with miss nannie spruce and much of the same height and might be called the plainest girl in the school for she had nothing pleasing either in her person or face except an exceeding fair skin and tolerable good black eyes but her face was ill-shaped and broad her hair very red and all the summer she was generally very full of freckles and she had also a small hesitation in her speech but without preamble she began her life as follows the life of miss betty ford my life said miss betty ford has hitherto passed very like that of miss nanny spruce only with this difference that as all her thoughts were fixed on finery my head ran on nothing but beauty i had an elder sister who was i must own a great deal handsomer than me and yet in my own mind at the time i did not think so though i was always told it was not for me to pretend to the same things with pretty miss kitty which was the name of my sister and in all respects she was taken so much more notice of than i was that i perfectly hated her and could not help wishing that by some accident her beauty might be spoiled whenever visitors came to the house their praises of her gave me the greatest vexation and as i had made myself believe i was a very great beauty i thought that it was prejudice and ill-nature in all around me not to view me in that light my sister kitty was very good-natured and though she was thus cried up for her beauty and indulged most on that account yet she never insulted me but did all in her power to oblige me but i could not love her and sometimes would raise lies against her which did not signify for she could always justify herself i could not give any reason for hating her but her beauty for she was very good but the better she was i thought the worse i appeared i could not bear her praises without teasing and vexing myself at last little kitty died of a fever to my great joy though as everybody cried for her i cried too for company and because i would not be thought ill-natured after kitty's death i lived tolerably easy till i came to school then the same desire of beauty returned and i hated all the misses who were handsomer than myself as much as i had before hated my sister and always took every opportunity of quarrelling with them till i found my own peace was concerned in getting the better of this disposition and that if i would have any content i must not repine at my not being so handsome as others when miss betty ford ceased miss jenny said indeed my dear it is well you had not at that time the power of the eagle in the fable for your poor sister might then like the peacock have said in a soft voice You are indeed a great beauty, but it lies in your beak and your talons, which make it death to me to dispute it.

Miss Betty Ford rejoiced that her power did not extend to enable her to do mischief before she had seen her folly.

And now this little society, in good humor and cheerfulness, attended their kind governess's summons to supper, and then, after the evening's prayers, they retired to their peaceful slumbers.

So I got interested in those challenges that certain professionals would face, did consultations to the licensing board and to these monitoring boards.

And then my last 10 years with Hazelden Betty Ford and in our Oregon programs, among our multiple state programs, we had a special interest in helping healthcare professionals.

And so they would be admitted to us specifically from all over the United States.

to receive treatment for combinations of mental illness and or addiction.