Talk me kind of through some of the things that you've learned and you teach and you share with others.

I have learned so many things.

And I think the big thing that helped me to in the beginning stay consistent with this was my daughter i because that situation had happened with my daughter and because i so strongly did not want that to be how she grew up or did not want her to have that mom that's what really kept me until you know through the hardest parts of it not that it's not still hard now but it's a totally different thing and then once i really found my flow of what works for me what doesn't learned how to pivot when things stopped working Then it became like, I don't need any incentives.

I don't need motivation.

It's all, it sounds, I don't know.

Some people would say this is selfish, but it's for me.

It feels good to me to do those things to take care of myself now.

And then two, do you have any guidelines or approaches if you find yourself continuing to do that and some of that stuff?