Alison A. Armstrong

It's just the reality.

And, and so I am here and in my early years in California, I came across a woman called Alison Armstrong, and she's written many books and been teaching women now for several decades about how women can understand men.

And she has a brilliant expression called frog farming.

So it used to be that you know a woman would kiss a frog and he would turn into a prince and now women have princes but she kisses him kisses them and they turn into frogs and that has become like a factory setting oh here's here's another prince let's let's kiss him and turn him into a frog and and and the idea that men are essentially slightly inferior hairier version of um like you know too rowdy speaking his mind and not being kind enough when he's speaking so we need to turn him into a woman and and so we have all of this toxic masculinity and you know schools nowadays are all run by usually left-leaning women who have a lot of this idea that We just need to cut off the balls, more or less, to put it more bluntly, of men.

Agreed.

Another one I really like, I'm going to leave the other ones off, but Allison Armstrong.

I've seen her on a bunch of podcasts and she... talks about men's mental health especially within like the relationship with women and things like that she is a little bit more old school but i don't think her takes are invalid by any stretch plus she's like this super soft-spoken lady and you could tell she really cares about what she's talking about highly recommend i

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And because most women do not like to, or it's not natural to them, to directly and clearly communicate their needs, it puts men in a position that their brain doesn't necessarily register.

And this is what Alison Armstrong's big idea seems to be, at least to me, that women are reading men through the lens of what a woman would do, how a woman would respond, how she would think, not necessarily considering at all that there's a good reason for why he does what he does, why he responds the way that he does.

or how he thinks the way that he does.

And to be fair to her, she says it goes both ways.

And muscle test and muscle test said, no, it's relationships.

And I'm like, again, with this, again, with this, because I'd been studying relationships for seven years by this stage, done the Gottman's, done the Alison Armstrong way, done all the study, done all the communication studies.

And I was like, not again.

And I, okay, if it's relationships, which one is it? This one, is it this one? My mom again, is it this one? And the body said, no, the body said, it's a relationship with yourself.