Adlerian

I encourage you to go to my website, go to the search bar, plug in the word iceberg, and you'll see the episodes where I've talked about this.

So what's going on underneath behavior? And I'm going to get into some of the Adlerian theory with you because this is the piece that really supported me in my parenting and what I saw and continue to see as being useful with clients.

And then I'm going to be honest with you about when it isn't just this season of parenting, because some of you are listening today and something very real and deep is happening, and I'm not going to gloss over that.

And then I'll give you a practice, three steps that you can start tonight.

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So the book's based on Adlerian philosophy and psychology who Adler was like the third musketeer so to speak of psychoanalysis.

You had Freud and Jung who took pretty much all the publicity but Adler was in there at a similar time and the biggest thing I take from that book was the separation of tasks and And that was basically that other people's actions and opinions of you and thoughts are not your thing.

They're not your task to do.

One of those groups was admitted to resident status for six months at a was basically to a bed at an institution based on an evaluation that suggested that they were in some way profoundly depressed that group was in turn divided into three groups One of them experienced Freudian psychotherapy or psychoanalysis.

Another experienced Adlerian psychoanalysis and work.

That group, after six months, was asked, has your depression improved? And 90% of the group reported that yes, indeed it had.

There was no significant statistical difference between the three forms of therapy.

Are we connecting before we correcting? I know you've heard me say it a thousand times here, and I'm going to keep saying.

And here's the Adlerian slash positive discipline bone underneath it.

Every human being is moving towards a sense and a perception of belonging and significance.

Everyone, your teen, when they slam the door, when they go silent, when they say things designed to wound you up, They are pursuing a sense of belonging and significance, of connecting and mattering with the tools that they have and the beliefs that they are holding in the moment about how to get it.

Hi, welcome to Parenting the Adlerian Way.

I'm your host, Adlerian family counselor and parenting expert, Alison Schaefer.

Each week, I answer your burning parenting questions to help reduce the stress of parenting one tip at a time.

We'll explore Adlerian psychology together and learn methods of child guidance for raising a happy, confident, capable, resilient child.

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That's just an interesting construct right there, you know, as a nugget.