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All the blue states, all of them, except there's one oddball that's in there, but all the blue ones are all in the top cost of fuel.

And yet we're supposed to believe that this election is about affordability and you're going to run out and vote for Democrats to lower gas prices? How am I missing that main point? And by the way, can't you look at states, the experiments that the founders put in, this idea of federalism, and then immediately see where the better economies are, where the better gas prices are, where more freedom exists? Just follow that trend.

You don't have to outthink this.

Here's where it gets really interesting, though, regarding how we view risk and comfort.

The source material introduces the concept of the B plus life, which she credits to NYU professor Susie Welch.

Think about the psychology here.

If your life is a C minus, it's terrible and you are highly motivated by pain to change it.

Welcome everybody to Please Advise.

I'm Susie Welch, your host.

And Please Advise is when I solve, I attempt to solve people's life and career dilemmas live in the podcast.

And Alison is like full disclosure, just a great friend of mine.

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for a second because we may have somebody who's listening to this podcast for the first time.

They're like, who is this broad? Susie Welch, what's she talking about? Welcome.

Okay.

And the answer to those struggles is always in their values and in their motivations.

So I, I use a tool called the Values Bridge that Suji- Suzy Welch created from at, at NYU, and I use the Enneagram, which looks at people's motivations and desires and the shadow side, of course, so that I get a full picture of who they are as people.

We can always do a 360 too, but a- that's not the first place that I start.

Understanding how others see you is not where I think that we need to begin when we start thinking about making decisions based on your values.

Love is a battlefield.

Well, which is it with love? Which is it with romantic love? Is it good? Is it bad? Is it something that we should just give over our whole lives to go find that special person and just make our lives about love, or should we just, like, shrug it off, the hot mess that love can become, the disaster it can become, and just live into the conclusion that love is just one of the many parts of our life, not the most important thing, not the least important thing, just one of the things that we do? That's the question, and yes, we are really talking all about love on this epic episode of Becoming You, and to be very specific, we are talking about the value of romantic love, which we call belovedness.

This is all part of our 16-part series that we're doing, which is a deep dive into each and every single one of the values that can and does govern our life.

And why are we doing it? So that we can understand our own values and live by design and not default.

Then, to top it all off, um, after we t- do those two things, we have a really fascinating guest today, the one and only Sabrina Zohar, who is a very smart and extremely unvarnished, that's why we love her, relationship and dating coach, and she's gonna come on and talk to us about the state of dating and relationships and romance today.

And then I'm gonna finish this podcast today with a story about me.

Yay, a b- story about me, that's a little sad and a little ironic and I hope funny, but it's entirely personal, and it's actually very specific to this particular value of belovedness.

So please stick around because today's podcast is a love story, baby, just say yes.

Dominique, it came to me.

[laughs] Hello, it's Suzy Welch, and welcome to this episode of Please Advise, our second Becoming You podcast each week where I take a question from a listener, uh, live and try to solve, uh, whatever question that they have.

We've got a great question today from a young woman named Dominique who's about to go to business school.

You can hear her question coming up.